Rewire

Wired for Intimacy has been an interesting and difficult book to read to say the least. Interesting in that it is highlighting areas of the brain and how a man's mind really works, why porn is addictive, and everything very well. There are facts that I never knew or could possibly understand before. It has allowed me to better understand the men around me and my own husband better. It has been difficult, however, because the first half is very science rich ( a good thing for those needing facts and scientific data), and all of the chemicals and   neurons and body signals and brain connections honestly got very confusing after a little while of reading them. However, I did take away the main point: we were all wired for intimacy- physically, emotionally and chemically- and pornography rewires all of these areas in men (and women).

That being said, I'm am excited to begin the half of the book that is more about healing for men and a change in viewpoint for them. I look forward to understanding men better. To understanding how God designed men to be male (not better, not worse, MALE) and what that really should look like. How I can better understand the men around me and how I can, as a woman, be supportive of those who are trying to allow God to re-rewire their brain pathways. Honestly, I also want to understand my husband better. How can I love him better, how can I serve him better, how are we different in our emotional need for intimacy and what does that look like. I'm hoping that even an understanding of a man from this book's perspective (based around pornography) will allow me to grow in understanding of him and men in general. God is always working a little more "I am woman, hear me roar!" out of me, and the more understanding I gain of how God designed men, and why that is good, the easier it is to be rewired myself.