Wired for Intimacy is a book that promises to be very enlightening to what is really happening in the brain when the very normalized pornography addiction occurs. I say normalized because a few days ago I had the thought that there really seems to be no man who has not been addicted to or at the very least viewed porn before. It was a hopeless feeling of how can I protect my children? What is happening? It is now not normal to think that a young man would have not viewed porn, and I sometimes struggle when thinking of my younger, nonChristian brother and the potential stuff he is getting into. But I don't feel that this is just a mans' problem anymore. I know that at a young age I began to struggle with sexual sin, and while I know where my story with it began, and ended, there are women out there who don't know. This is a truth that is becoming more apparent the more women I talk to. There is a seeming correlation with young and this particular sin. I have heard many stories begin with, "I was just a little girl...".
It has become apparent to me that this is not just a man problem, but a human problem. Only, it feels like only one side gets the attention. There is very little out there on the effects of porn on women (and female porn is not always just pictures. There are plenty of romance novels that feed into this area of our minds and hearts). But an interesting discussion my husband and I discussed recently (in light of the book) is what is appropriate for a woman to share in public? Should she announce in mixed company that she has struggled with sexual sin due to men having very visual minds (especially if they are still in sexual sin themselves)? Should it matter? I confess that there was a feminist part of me that reared up at the thought and wanted to lash out that it was just the "man" holding us down, it shouldn't matter, etc etc etc. But it may, and as a Christian with many Christian brothers (and for men in general), I need to be willing to sacrifice what I want to say for the benefit of the men around me. So maybe a discussion on women within a group of women would be beneficial, but not if there are men around. Still, I have not come to a final conclusion on this. Probably a a middle ground is better suited to this, but I'm still trying to discover what the middle ground here would be.
I'm still working through this thought process, and I hope to have a better understanding soon.
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